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Grace and Ease

Next month, Brent and I will celebrate our second wedding anniversary. I’ve known the rabbi who married us since I was thirteen years old. Yael was my hebrew school teacher, while she was still in rabbinical school. She visited my grandfather in the hospital when he was dying, she came to my high school graduation party, she met me for coffee when I contemplated rabbinical school. She’s a member of my community. And really, she’s a friend.

On our one-year anniversary, Yael sent us a card, and a copy of the blessing she’d read at the wedding, tears welling in her eyes as she celebrated with the two of us and our friends and family.

The past couple weeks, we’ve been trying to figure out how to celebrate two years of marriage. It’s been a pretty remarkable two years, and we both want to commemorate it in a way that feels true both to us as individuals, and to who we have become together.

At first, my laid back husband suggested that we run a marathon together. Then, taking it a step further, he suggested that we make it a tradition, doing a race together annually to celebrate another year in the books. Being the one in our relationship who generally brings up different plans, I was thrilled by his idea, both because it sounded like a great way to take stock of our life together, and because he was the one who suggested it!

And it reminded me of part of Yael’s blessing two years ago.

The two of you see each other in your fullness and meet as equals. You excel separately and you thrive together. Your relationship is a blending of deep friendship, passion and love and both of you believe deeply that a loving partnership will enrich and enhance your lives. You are so blessed to have found each other.

And so now you are beginning on this very new marathon, this very new adventure race. We can be sure it will literally include running, paddling and cycling-and who knows what other challenging physical leaps–and we know it will also include terrain you have not yet traversed, challenges you can’t yet imagine, and courses that stretch you beyond any where you have ever been before.

May you navigate your way together with grace and ease. May you help each other find paths that alone you would not have noticed. At times may you lift and carry each other and allow yourselves to be lifted and carried by your family and friends.

We didn’t start racing together until several months after our wedding, and we’re still sorting out some of the dynamics of teammate-dom. But the analogy rang as true then as it does now.

In the spirit of Yael’s words, and of the relationship we’re working on building, we decided that a pre-charted marathon course didn’t quite fit. So instead, we’re signing up for a ROGAINE, a 12-hour running and orienteering event that forces you to travel together, to blaze your own collective trail, set your own collective course, and navigate the twists and turns.

Hopefully with grace and ease.


10 responses to “Grace and Ease

  1. RunningLaur April 4, 2009 at 3:20 am

    Wow, your relationship is awe inspiring. Congrats on the second year!

  2. RunToFinish April 4, 2009 at 11:03 am

    oh what a fun idea!!! I don’t know how to get D more involved with running…but maybe some day. For right now his support is pretty great.congrats on two years, you two are an amazing couple

  3. N.D. April 4, 2009 at 2:41 pm

    that’s an awesome idea. I’ll see what year Bill comes up with that one! Hope today’s run went well! Decided to go tomorrow with the wind and slept instead!

  4. X-Country2 April 4, 2009 at 4:50 pm

    I think it’s so great that you can do things like that together. You’re a lucky lady. :o)

  5. ali April 5, 2009 at 11:15 am

    Yep, I cried like a baby when she read those lines at the wedding… congrats (in advance) on the anniversary and have fun in the rogaine!

  6. Angela and David Kidd April 5, 2009 at 7:37 pm

    This is so cool. I wish my husband wanted to race with me. Enjoy your anniversary!

  7. Kim April 5, 2009 at 11:06 pm

    Abby-I love this post! What an inspiration you two are.I hope you two have a great ‘adventure run’ for a long, long time!

  8. I Run for Fun April 6, 2009 at 12:24 am

    That is awesome! Congratulations on 2 years of marriage. And the fact that your husband suggested it is special…men usually don’t do things like that.

  9. RunToFinish April 6, 2009 at 12:39 am

    ok you snuck in that post wasn’t supposed to be up! πŸ™‚ and yes they need a new website… hmm I have just the company to do it!

  10. Kristin April 7, 2009 at 3:24 pm

    Really great story, and such an inspiration as well. It is fantastic that the two of you can do things that you enjoy so much together!Congratulations on two years of marriage, that is no easy task πŸ™‚

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